When I was a little girl, and I do mean little, I hated studying. I hated being forced to do homework when I didn’t like the subject. I pretty much hated being forced to do anything really. And that trend followed me through to my early to mid teenage years as I continued to turn in home work late, or not following up on projects. I lived in Australia then and I didn’t know better. Don’t get me wrong, I still managed to pass the classes I wanted and enjoyed, but getting C’s and D’s weren’t unusual for me. In the end, I swear my parents decided to give up on me.
But then I moved to America and suddenly, school became my life.
Don’t get me wrong, I still didn’t like it, but in order to keep myself busy, I made it into my everything.
I perhaps made it into my everything because by the time I moved to America, I was still in denial about it all. I still wanted to believe that my friends back in Australia would forever remain my friends. I was terribly naive back then. And then I went back to Australia and I realized that they had all moved on while I was the only one stuck in the past. After seeing them like that, I went back to America more focused than ever to get the grades my parents wanted me to get. True, they were the grades my parents wanted me to get, but over time, even my priorities changed.
Back in Australia, my priority was to make friends, socialize, go out as much as I could. But after moving to America, my priority changed to getting a good future for myself and for my future kids. Plus, I did not want to let my parents down.
My post has a different message for two groups of people:
- To teenagers/young adults: maybe everything seems murky right now, and maybe it seems like you don’t really have a direction to go but I promise, that it will all happen in time. In time, you will discover the path that you realize after being on, that it was meant for you. But while you discover a new you, don’t ever forget that the past is what made you who you are today, and if it wasn’t for that kind of a past, you may have not reached the goals and achievements that you have right not. Don’t forget that.
- To parents of teenagers/young adults: I’m sorry but even though they will forever be your children, they are now on their own. Yes, you can still baby them and keep them by your side, but they will eventually have to fly on their own. Be there for them, and believe that they will find their path in life. Everyone goes through a foggy period of their life, but it’s what’s at the end of the fog that ultimately matters. Be strong, and give your kids the wings.
Things do change. Even if you have grown up in the same small down your entire life, things will change if you move into a big city. Of course, I am not saying you should move to experience that change, but rather embrace the murky parts to get through to the clear parts. Your life won’t be murky forever.
Don’t forget to SM:)LE today!
∞ sofieyah ∞